4. It’s all up to me
but who am I?
Emerging
adulthood is a time of searching for concrete answers to big questions. Faced with the necessity of mapping out
their future and in the absence of contextual support on how to do that, the
only person emerging adults can turn to for answers is themselves. Finding their way in life becomes a lengthy
do-it-yourself project.
Discovering what life is
all about for these young people begins with finding out who they are and what
they can do. This is another defining
characteristic for these emerging adults.
At the start of their twenties they, by their own admission, don’t know
who they are, what they can do or what they should be doing with their
lives. The famous philosopher Rene
Descartes wrote centuries ago cogito ergo
sum, “I think, therefore I am.”
Today’s emerging adults are more likely to exclaim with some
frustration: “I think and think, and think, but I still don’t know who I
am!” Discovering what life is all about for these young people begins with
discovering their identity. Identity
exploration takes up much of their time and effort during their twenties.